We Feed Our Bodies–Are You Feeding Your Mind?

March 7, 2012 by  
Filed under Featured N*Powerment, Mind

Each week, I receive a newsletter from the foundation of one of my all time favorite mentors, Jim Rohn.  At the bottom of the publication there’s always a small section dedicated to taking “vitamins for your mind.” I love that idea because we always think in terms of taking vitamins for our bodies, yet the health of our minds (and spirits) is as equally important and should be as vigilantly maintained as our bodies. I also love the brevity of his wisdom and so I thought I’d share one of his sections with you. The installation below is focused on giving, sharing and generosity.

It’s best to start the discipline of generosity when the amounts are small. It’s easy to give ten cents out of a dollar; it’s a little harder to give a hundred thousand out of a million.

  • Giving is better than receiving because giving starts the receiving process.
  • Nothing teaches character better than generosity.
  • Here’s what is exciting about sharing ideas with others: If you share a new idea with ten people, they get to hear it once and you get to hear it ten times.
  • Sharing makes you bigger than you are. The more you pour out, the more life will be able to pour in.
  • Somebody says, “Well, I can’t be concerned about other people. About the best I can do is to take care of myself.” Well, then you will always be poor.
  • What you give becomes an investment that will return to you multiplied at some point in the future.
  • When somebody shares, everybody wins.
  • The amount you give isn’t important. What matters is what that amount represents in terms of your life.
  • Only by giving are you able to receive more than you already have.

Now, don’t forget to take your other vitamins:)

Choose to… be remarkable!

Are You Minding Your Own Business?

Have you ever known anyone who never has anything to talk about except other people? Whether it’s people they know, think they know, don’t know, or even people on tv (who don’t know them), all they do is gossip and talk about others all day? We all do. I know I certainly do. All these negative people do is sit around bad-mouthing other people or carrying on about how “so and so” did this or “so and so” did that. You know exactly who I mean. The ones always cackling or crooning, “Ooh, look at what she’s wearing? Look at her hair or his shirt or his shoes or her dress.” “Did you see…? or “Let me tell you what she did yesterday…” I mean c’mon people. Give it a rest! Who really cares? If that is all you have to talk about, then you really need to get something to do so you would be less focused on “so and so” and their life and more focused on yourself and your life.

The thing with people who spend most of their time talking about how much other people don’t have it together is that they are only proving that they really don’t have it together themselves. They think that all that talk shows how “with it” they are or how much they “got it going on.” But the truth is, people who really got it going on or are trying to get it together, don’t have time to talk about other people because they are too busy doing their own thing to worry about what other people are doing, wearing or saying or not doing, not wearing or not saying. And I definitely know that no celebrities are sitting around talking about you and me. That’s for sure! So why should I spend my time talking about them? The bottom line is, talk is cheap. And if that’s all you spend time doing, you are not spending your time doing much of anything worth any value.

When you spend time gossiping about other people, you are taking time away from your own self development and improvement. You are allowing your focus to shift from your goals and dreams and what you could be working on concerning your own growth and directing your energies towards people, who more often than not, don’t give a rat’s rear about you! I am willing to bet anyone that the people you spend your time running your mouth about don’t spend the same amount of time, if any at all, talking about you. That’s because you and your life is not important to them. They have better things to do–like work on their own life–and the fact of the matter is, you should too.

If you feel the need to focus on someone else’s life–what they have and what they are doing and how they look and who their baby daddy is or what they had to eat at their party or where they went this weekend or who liked their status on facebook and whatever else is going on with them–to the point where they are the topic of your conversation on a daily basis, chances are you are just a hater and all of that gossip parading as “I’m better than him/her/them” is really just masking the envy under all that negativity. And if that’s the case, you are certainly not going to get whatever it is you wish you had with idle chit chat. Why not try getting up, getting out and making good things happen for yourself instead of talking about what is happening with everyone else.

Unless you are a news anchor for ABC 7 or working for TMZ, let the phrase “Mind your own business” apply to you. Literally, start taking care of your own life and get your nose out of other people’s lives. If you don’t have much of a life to talk about, get one! It is definitely a lot harder than sitting around talking about other people, but take it from me, it’s also a lot more rewarding.

Be Blessed and Be Remarkable!

Don’t Let Them Steal Your Joy

This Saturday, a few friends and I met for our monthly book club discussion. Earlier in the day, one of them mentioned to me that she didn’t really feel up to going because there were some things bothering her and as a result she just wasn’t in the mood. Because of the blues, she was tempted to stay home and wallow in her sorrows. While it would have been easy to let her off the hook (I was in the same mood when we spoke), I decided not to and urged her to come out with us. Thankfully, I was able to convince her because we both agreed that we had a great time.

At the end of the evening we both learned that it’s easy to let problems or challenges get the better of us. We often allow them to keep us down or trapped in the doldrums. It’s easy to think that dwelling on what’s wrong will somehow help to make it better, but it doesn’t. If anything, it only magnifies our problems. What we need to remember is that we can’t let what’s wrong keep us from celebrating what’s right and we can’t let the bad things going on around us to stop us from taking the time to engage in the activities that make us happy. No matter what is going on, we can’t allow the circumstances or the people involved in them to steal our joy. We’ve got to be confident in the fact that no matter what it is, “this too will pass” and that if anything, the problems or the people causing them will be around for a little while longer, so we might as well not make them our sole focus.

My friend and I had a great time socializing over good books and good food and we were all the better for it. If we had stayed home, racking our minds about the challenges we are facing, we would have only been giving more strength to those issues. By ignoring them, even for a little while, we were able to diminish them.

Our problems only have as much power over us as we give them. Therefore, we need to remember to take time out to take care of ourselves because it takes their power away.

Be on the look-out!!! The joy thieves are out there. They don’t have any joy of their own so they are determined to steal yours. Knowing that, be forewarned and forearmed. Keep yours guarded and don’t let them have it!!

Have a great week!

Thought of the Week

February 9, 2012 by  
Filed under Mind, Personal N*Powerment

Hi Everybody!
I haven’t forgotten about you, it’s just been really hectic lately. However, I don’t want to completely abandon you, so I am going to leave you with a thought for the week for the next few weeks until I resume my usually blogging schedule.

“Great people talk about ideas; ordinary people talk about things; small-minded people talk about other people.” Elenor Roosevelt

See you soon,

How to Get The Best Revenge

December 7, 2011 by  
Filed under Mind, Personal N*Powerment

Some of you have inquired offline about the recent spate of negative comments being left here on the site. They are the result of problems with two individuals (who will remain as nameless as they are senseless). I have since deleted & archived those comments and disabled publishing comments because I realize that it doesn’t even make sense reading or responding to them as it is futile to attempt to respond rationally to irrationality.

Unbeknownst to me, these individuals have been harboring ill feelings towards me for reasons only they are aware of for quite some time. I have never had any negative altercations with them nor have I ever exchanged any hostile words with them or about them. In fact, I didn’t have any issues at all with them until last Sunday night when they began to literally “curse me out” through the walls of my home. I was shocked that their diatribe was totally directed at me. I will not repeat the things they were saying here now, but what I will say was that their comments that night as well as those that they later emailed to me and posted here on the blog were of a very personal nature and intended to push my buttons and hurt my feelings. Of course, being human, I experienced the gamut of possible reactions–from outright shock, surprise and confusion to anger and amusement. I could not understand where all their hostility came from when, as I mentioned, I have never interacted with them in any manner warranting this type of personal attack and I wondered what the heck I ever did to them. However, when they escalated their assault by leaving inflammatory voice mail messages on my work phone, speaking with my principal in the attempt to sully my unmarred reputation, and posting numerous silly remarks here to the blog, I realized that their problem actually has nothing to do with me. And that is what I want to share with you today.

Sometimes when you are busy “doing you” and simply living your life, there are people out there who can’t stand you simply because you are doing just that. They hate the fact that you are doing what you want to do, the way you want to do it, when you want to do it and however you want to do it. They hate that you have a choice. They see what you have and instead of being inspired or motivated to strive for the same thing for themselves, they prefer to sit back and grudge you for what you have. They hate that you have a goal in life and they don’t. They hate that you look good and they don’t. They hate that you “are” good and you don’t need their approval to believe it. They hate that they can’t be more like you. These folks are known as “haters.” They simply hate you because you exist and because you do, you are a constant reminder to them of all that they are not. If given the chance, they will attempt to bring you down to their level just so they can feel better about themselves. These people feel badly about who they are; however, that is not your problem. It’s their problem.

As someone who has always worked or volunteered in a service capacity, to help, educate or uplift others, I have never had anyone accost or blatantly “hating on” me the way these individuals have and so I’ve never really had to learn this lesson myself, until now. But now that I have, I want to implore anyone else who is experiencing anything similar to this to not allow it to weaken your resolve to live the life you were destined to live or the life that you choose to live. Whether you prefer to own your home over renting from others, prefer to have two (very cute) dogs over two kids, or a “boyfriend” who you can proudly say is hard-working, drug-free and has never been incarcerated over a “husband” who is unemployed, on drugs or in and out of jail–These are your choices and you are free to make them when you are an independent, self-sufficient woman. So, continue to do your thing and to do it well. Live your life and don’t let anyone else’s insecurities, delusional thinking, jealousies, misdirected negativity, or low self-esteem influence or diminish your capacity to be remarkable. Not everyone is going to love you even if they don’t even know you, but it’s ok, because the people who do, know why and according to 3LW, “Haters are gonna hate” so you might as well just go on doing your thing and giving them something to hate on! One of my dear friends always says, “Living well is the best revenge” and it has taken this experience to open my eyes to the truth of that statement. So, on that note, have a great week. Go out there and “Be Remarkable” and, as my friend says in Jamaican patois, “mek it bun dem!”

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