7 Ways to Eat Less Without Feeling Hungry

October 30, 2011 by  
Filed under Body, Featured N*Powerment, Physical N*Powerment

Whenever we try to cut back on our caloric intake, we often feel hungry. If you have been regularly overeating, your body is expecting to continue to receive the same calorie range  it has been used to. The trick to maintaining your weight or losing weight is helping your body make the transition to existing on fewer calories without it really noticing. Ok, so how do you do that? Read more

Sticks and Stones & Why Words Do Hurt

October 23, 2011 by  
Filed under Mind, Personal N*Powerment

We all grew up with the popular chant, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” On the surface, this song probably got us through a few rough spots without looking bruised, but the truth is, words do hurt. We know that the words people say to us and about us have the ability to hurt us, but how much thought do you give to the words you say about yourself to yourself?

Do you have limiting and sabotaging  messages playing in your subconscious mind?  Most of these messages are recorded during childhood, but their effects can last well into adulthood.  Chances are if someone told you that you were no good or lazy, you believed them.  If someone told you that you’d never amount to anything or you weren’t good enough, you believed them.  If someone told you that you were stupid, or ugly or skinny or fat or too light or too dark, you believed them.  And you still believe them to this day – even if you’re not consciously aware of these underlying beliefs.

The good news is,  it is possible to overcome old messages and replace them with new, empowering messages.  Here are three good ways to start:

1) Fall in love with yourself

Think about the last time you fell in love with someone.  At the beginning you and the person probably devoted a lot of time, attention and affection to each other, right?  You felt passionate and swept away by the beauty of your partner and he/she felt the same about you.  One of the best ways to learn to love yourself is to enter into a similar process – with yourself!  Treat yourself like the royalty you are!  Do things that make you feel happy.  Hug yourself.  Tell yourself everything that you love about yourself and why someone should be in love with you. Spend quality time with yourself, wine and dine yourself, admire yourself and stare into your own eyes. Discover how awesome you are.

2) Explore your existing beliefs

You may suspect you have old, limiting messages hanging around in your head but may be unsure about what they are exactly.  Maybe no one ever came out and said those derogatory things to you, but you still doubt yourself in some areas.  In order to discover the beliefs that are holding you back, you may need to go on an expedition.  Begin exploring your existing beliefs by writing in a journal.  Give yourself prompts or questions like these:  “My earliest memory of feeling stupid was . . .”  “My mother always made me feel . . .”  “My father always treated me like . . .” and so on.  The idea is to think back to an earlier time in your life and see if you can discover when and where your limiting beliefs got started.  Then, challenge those beliefs.  Are they still true?  Were they ever true?  Decide what you WANT to be true, and begin to replace the old beliefs by focusing on your new and improved beliefs.

3) Emphasize your good qualities

When you have low self-esteem, you tend to keep focusing on the things that are “wrong with you,” and dismissing the things that you have going for you.  Start to turn this around by praising and encouraging yourself in your self-talk.  When you accomplish something, congratulate yourself!  Say things like, “Wow, I’m really proud of myself for doing that.  It wasn’t easy, but I pushed through and gave it my best shot.”  You can also make a point of simply giving yourself positive self-talk daily.  Recite affirmations like these:  “I am a valuable person.  I have a lot to offer the world.  I’m talented and successful.”  The more you do it, the more you’ll come to believe it.

Wanna hear more about the power of self-talk? Listen to my audioblog here: Self-Talk

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why Your Mindset Matters Most

October 16, 2011 by  
Filed under Goals and Dreams, Mind, Professional N*Powerment

What does it take to be successful?

Some would also say that success is a natural result of planning, preparation and focused action. I know because I would be one of them. However, there is another side to experiencing success that happens before any planning or preparation takes place on paper. It’s the planning and preparation that takes place in your mind. 

Have you ever wondered how two people can attempt the same objective in the same way and only one of them succeed?  Is it luck?  Timing?  Tenacity?  More often than not, it’s a person’s mindset that determines whether they fail or succeed.

What is a mindset? 

Typically a mindset refers to your predominant state of mind day to day.  It’s what you think about, focus on, and expect from your daily experiences.  If you think negatively, expect the worst, and feel pessimistic about your options, you’ll draw those negatives into your life.  Likewise, when you think positively, expect the best and focus on successful outcomes, you get more of that more often than not. The concept is summed up nicely in the quote, “You get what you expect.”

Makes sense, right?  But how exactly does this work?  Why is a success mindset so important?  There are three major reasons:

1)  A success mindset boosts your confidence and self-belief.

When you lack belief in who you are and your ability, it usually comes along with a sense of powerlessness and futility. This is a defeatist mindset. It is the exact opposite of a success mindset.  Lack of confidence means you see no point in trying to be successful or to accomplish something worthwhile because you think it won’t happen anyway.  This type of mindset is a recipe for failure in any endeavor because as they say, “If you think you can’t, you won’t.”

Having a truly positive mindset, on the other hand, means that you believe in yourself and your capabilities.  You believe you can succeed at nearly anything and you are at least willing to try.  Even better, you realize that the more you do try, the more confidence and self-belief you build.

2)  A success mindset strengthens your determination.

Without a mindset of success, one failure (in anything) is enough to convince you that pursuing any of your goals is a waste of time. If you don’t achieve your goal/s the first time you try, you rationalize that it simply wasn’t meant to be and you give up.

A success mindset, however, does not accept failure as the end of the story – it’s just one more way that didn’t work out the way you planned.  In fact, a true success mindset accepts that the only true failure occurs when you stop trying.

3)  A success mindset encourages fruitful actions.

Have you ever found yourself going around in circles or procrastinating because you didn’t know the best way to approach a specific goal?  Maybe you wanted to get started, but you felt overwhelmed or intimidated by some of the action steps required.  As a result, you may have kept sabotaging your efforts as you searched in vain for an easier or less frightening way attempt your goal.

With a true success mindset, you’ll be less intimidated to get started on your goals because you’ll accept that the only way to start is at the beginning—one step at a time. You’ll also have the inner confidence and determination to pursue them.

So, how do you develop a success mindset?  Here are 3 tips.

1) Harness the power of your mind by thinking positively.

Catch yourself when you find  yourself thinking negatively. You think the thoughts—think positive, powerful thoughts.

2) Expect the best in every situation.

If it doesn’t happen, reflect on what went wrong and then let it go and commit to trying again.

3) Be willing to fail.

Prepare to fail quickly. Learn what didn’t work from the failure and continue trying until you learn what does work. Ben Franklin didn’t discover electricity on his first try.

Keep moving in the right direction and you won’t help but become successful, from the inside out.

What do you think? What are your tips for developing a success mindset?  Leave them in the comment box below.

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