B2B–Day 4–Don’t Overextend Yourself

August 29, 2011 by  
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Today’s thought and task is going to be a little shorter than the last few to give you a chance to process everything we’ve covered for the past 3 days. Don’t feel like reading? That’s ok.  Click here to listen:[audio:http://be-remarkable.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/Day-4-Dont-Overcommit.mp3|titles=Day 4–Don’t Overcommit]

I know how tempting it is for people who are ambitious and generous of spirit to agree to taking on task after task after task. We believe that if we commit to doing everything that somehow we will be able to. And for the most part, we tend to miraculously  get it all done. But let’s ask ourselves, at what cost? We’re not winning any Nobel prizes. We just want to be good people. Here’s a news flash: Good people don’t have to do everything that comes their way to be considered “good.”

When we spread ourselves too thin by accepting too many responsibilities and participating in too many activities, we are creating unhealthy conditions for ourselves all in the name of what? For whatever the reason that drives us to say “yes” to so many commitments, it really doesn’t benefit us any more than doing a little less would. 

Perhaps it’s the desire to contribute or to be all things to all people, or maybe just to be nice. Who knows? But what I do know is that overextending ourselves leads to stressing ourselves and we all know what that leads to—too much stress=early death.

Now of course I wouldn’t be me if I weren’t doing all the things I do and I’m sure the same could be said for you, but at least let’s try to be more conscious this year of the responsibilities we add to our already overly busy lives.

 Before you say “yes” to involving yourself in a time consuming or high energy output activity, ask yourself, “Is this something I am passionate about? Is this something that will add to my experience of the world or to my experience as a human being? Will I grow personally or professionally or help someone else to grow personally or professionally as a result of participating in or accepting this responsibility?  If the answer is no, then maybe your answer should be “no” too. Or you can take the straightforward advice of Derek Sivers in his book Anything You Want where he says, if  your response isn’t “Hell yeah” you said say no. 

Today’s Task:

There’s a saying, “people like you for what you say yes to, but they respect you for what you say no to.” So for today,  “Just Say No”—Remember that slogan? Use it. Don’t agree to do anything that you really don’t want to do or are just doing to be nice. 

 Is there one thing in particular that you know you should take off of your plate (or at least temporarily push to the side) so that you’ll  have a bit more time to do some other things that you really are  passionate about? If so, share it in the comment box. This way we can hold you to it when you feel your resolve getting weak and you are tempted to say yes:)                                                                            

Did you catch the first few days of the series? If not, here are the links:

Day 1–Assemble Your Cabinet

Day 2–Make Room for More

Day 3–Change Your Mind

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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One Response to “B2B–Day 4–Don’t Overextend Yourself”
  1. Judy says:

    Thank goodness one of the things I learned to say is “no”. I found that people just take advantage of you if they realize that you are always willing to help and they are often not even grateful for what you do for them and they would keep coming back again and again.
    Like you said, we are not winning a nobel prize when we over-extend ourselves and though I believe that God blesses us so that we can bless others, He also gave us intelligent minds to determine when we are taking on too much to the detriment of ourselves.
    It took me a long time to realize that though it feels good to do something good, it feels even better to be true to myself.