Discovering YOU (P1)

May 18, 2011 by  
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The scariest aspect of becoming a teacher, a mentor, a supervisor, a life coach, a leadership trainer, and a motivational speaker wasn’t the time, energy, emotional or financial investment involved in any of it. It was the nature of those roles.

All of them put me in a position where I am, in a sense, saying “follow me” and I’ve always felt that I couldn’t be a role model for others if my life was not perfect and I still struggle with that paradox. Walking my talk has always meant a lot to me because the one thing that I never want to be is  a hypocrite. There are already so may of them out there that the world definitely doesn’t need one more. Plus, I believed that doing so would be similar to being two people, one person to myself and someone else to others and I didn’t want to be that person. I want to be the same “me” everywhere, all the time, to everyone. And so I’ve always actively sought to discover who “I” am so I can be that person.

As someone who is always “becoming” as I believe we all are, I know that I am still in the discovery process, but I do have a pretty solid idea of who I am when I say I am me. Do you?

Last month I wrote about happiness versus joyfulness and why we should seek first to be joyful knowing that we will have many opportunities to be happy. Today, I want to continue discussing how we can find our joy.

I believe the most important step in finding out what allows us to be joyful is knowing who we are at our core. Not who we pretend to be. Not who others want us to be, but who we truly are, as the saying goes, “when no one is watching” and just as important, knowing how that self aligns with who we want to be so we can be true to that sense of “self.”

Do you know who you are?

If you had to answer the question, “Who am I?” without using your name as the major identifier, what would you say?

For what’s left of this month, I’d like us all to think about who we are and to share our thoughts on ourselves with each other. My plan is to publish a mini-post of this topic every day for the rest of the month where I will ask you a few questions designed to help you get to know yourself a little better. I am hoping that you will share your responses here with me and everyone else on NPW and the BR Blog. I am going to share mine, so why not join me?

Let’s start with a few easy ones:

1.  List 3 words that describe you at your best.

At my best, I am positive, passionate, and creative.

2. List 3 words that describe you at your worst.

At my worst, I am stubborn, unforgiving, spoiled/bratty

3. List 3 words (verbs) but ending with “ing” that describe what you love to do.

I love planning, starting, sharing.

Copy and paste the questions into the reply box to share your answers.

See you tomorrow!

 

 

 

 

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7 Responses to “Discovering YOU (P1)”
  1. I am excited to see where this goes! Very interesting and a really real battle as far and “Perception” verses “Self”.

    1. List 3 words that describe you at your best.

    At my best, I am passionate, creative, organized.

    2. List 3 words that describe you at your worst.

    At my worst, I am impatient, scattered, irritable.

    3. List 3 words (verbs) but ending with “ing” that describe what you love to do.

    I love teaching, sharing, learning.

    • Nicolette James says:

      Hey Ohhh,
      I originally had impatient on my list of “worst” too, but I find that I have unending patience for my students or simply when I am teaching someone something, but absolutely no patience for incompetence, slow or distracted drivers and for lines of any kind.
      I agree with you on the “perception” vs “self” battle and I think it’s interesting to ask yourself the questions but to also ask someone else to answer them about you and see how they match up! I’ve found that they do and don’t in surprising and revealing ways.

  2. Kathleen says:

    Great post, Niki! Now you are giving us homework (LOL), but I am up for the challenge!

    1. List 3 words that describe you at your best.

    At my best, I am kind, dedicated, and joyful.

    2. List 3 words that describe you at your worst.

    At my worst, I am anxious, fearful,and paralzyed

    3. List 3 words (verbs) but ending with “ing” that describe what you love to do.

    I love helping, creating, and sharing.

    • Nicolette James says:

      Thanks! Looking forward to finding out if you uncover (or rediscover) something new.

  3. Andrea says:

    Hey Niki! Interesting questions….Ok, I’ll give it a shot…
    At my best, I am compassionate, enthusiastic and loving.
    At my worst, I am anxious, insecure and messy.
    I love helping, giving and laughing.

    There are actually a lot of words I thought of- and it’s hard to narrow it down to three words. Our personalities are so complex, it’s hard to limit the description to just a few words- don’t you think?

    • Nicolette James says:

      Yes, I do. The three words we may choose to describe ourselves can even change daily, so it is hard, but I want you think of as many as you can and then narrow it down to three most consistent descriptors.

  4. Becky says:

    Self reflection is always the hardest thing (at least I think so.) So here it goes:

    1. List 3 words that describe you at your best.
    At my best I am Attentive, Pleasant, Disciplined.

    2. List 3 words that describe you at your worst.
    At my worst, I am Pessimistic, Inconsistent, Possessive.

    3. List 3 words (verbs) but ending with “ing” that describe what you love to do.
    I love Exploring, Learning, Loving.