We Feed Our Bodies–Are You Feeding Your Mind?

March 7, 2012 by  
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Each week, I receive a newsletter from the foundation of one of my all time favorite mentors, Jim Rohn.  At the bottom of the publication there’s always a small section dedicated to taking “vitamins for your mind.” I love that idea because we always think in terms of taking vitamins for our bodies, yet the health of our minds (and spirits) is as equally important and should be as vigilantly maintained as our bodies. I also love the brevity of his wisdom and so I thought I’d share one of his sections with you. The installation below is focused on giving, sharing and generosity.

It’s best to start the discipline of generosity when the amounts are small. It’s easy to give ten cents out of a dollar; it’s a little harder to give a hundred thousand out of a million.

  • Giving is better than receiving because giving starts the receiving process.
  • Nothing teaches character better than generosity.
  • Here’s what is exciting about sharing ideas with others: If you share a new idea with ten people, they get to hear it once and you get to hear it ten times.
  • Sharing makes you bigger than you are. The more you pour out, the more life will be able to pour in.
  • Somebody says, “Well, I can’t be concerned about other people. About the best I can do is to take care of myself.” Well, then you will always be poor.
  • What you give becomes an investment that will return to you multiplied at some point in the future.
  • When somebody shares, everybody wins.
  • The amount you give isn’t important. What matters is what that amount represents in terms of your life.
  • Only by giving are you able to receive more than you already have.

Now, don’t forget to take your other vitamins:)

Choose to… be remarkable!

How to Get The Best Revenge

December 7, 2011 by  
Filed under Mind, Personal N*Powerment

Some of you have inquired offline about the recent spate of negative comments being left here on the site. They are the result of problems with two individuals (who will remain as nameless as they are senseless). I have since deleted & archived those comments and disabled publishing comments because I realize that it doesn’t even make sense reading or responding to them as it is futile to attempt to respond rationally to irrationality.

Unbeknownst to me, these individuals have been harboring ill feelings towards me for reasons only they are aware of for quite some time. I have never had any negative altercations with them nor have I ever exchanged any hostile words with them or about them. In fact, I didn’t have any issues at all with them until last Sunday night when they began to literally “curse me out” through the walls of my home. I was shocked that their diatribe was totally directed at me. I will not repeat the things they were saying here now, but what I will say was that their comments that night as well as those that they later emailed to me and posted here on the blog were of a very personal nature and intended to push my buttons and hurt my feelings. Of course, being human, I experienced the gamut of possible reactions–from outright shock, surprise and confusion to anger and amusement. I could not understand where all their hostility came from when, as I mentioned, I have never interacted with them in any manner warranting this type of personal attack and I wondered what the heck I ever did to them. However, when they escalated their assault by leaving inflammatory voice mail messages on my work phone, speaking with my principal in the attempt to sully my unmarred reputation, and posting numerous silly remarks here to the blog, I realized that their problem actually has nothing to do with me. And that is what I want to share with you today.

Sometimes when you are busy “doing you” and simply living your life, there are people out there who can’t stand you simply because you are doing just that. They hate the fact that you are doing what you want to do, the way you want to do it, when you want to do it and however you want to do it. They hate that you have a choice. They see what you have and instead of being inspired or motivated to strive for the same thing for themselves, they prefer to sit back and grudge you for what you have. They hate that you have a goal in life and they don’t. They hate that you look good and they don’t. They hate that you “are” good and you don’t need their approval to believe it. They hate that they can’t be more like you. These folks are known as “haters.” They simply hate you because you exist and because you do, you are a constant reminder to them of all that they are not. If given the chance, they will attempt to bring you down to their level just so they can feel better about themselves. These people feel badly about who they are; however, that is not your problem. It’s their problem.

As someone who has always worked or volunteered in a service capacity, to help, educate or uplift others, I have never had anyone accost or blatantly “hating on” me the way these individuals have and so I’ve never really had to learn this lesson myself, until now. But now that I have, I want to implore anyone else who is experiencing anything similar to this to not allow it to weaken your resolve to live the life you were destined to live or the life that you choose to live. Whether you prefer to own your home over renting from others, prefer to have two (very cute) dogs over two kids, or a “boyfriend” who you can proudly say is hard-working, drug-free and has never been incarcerated over a “husband” who is unemployed, on drugs or in and out of jail–These are your choices and you are free to make them when you are an independent, self-sufficient woman. So, continue to do your thing and to do it well. Live your life and don’t let anyone else’s insecurities, delusional thinking, jealousies, misdirected negativity, or low self-esteem influence or diminish your capacity to be remarkable. Not everyone is going to love you even if they don’t even know you, but it’s ok, because the people who do, know why and according to 3LW, “Haters are gonna hate” so you might as well just go on doing your thing and giving them something to hate on! One of my dear friends always says, “Living well is the best revenge” and it has taken this experience to open my eyes to the truth of that statement. So, on that note, have a great week. Go out there and “Be Remarkable” and, as my friend says in Jamaican patois, “mek it bun dem!”

Why Your Mindset Matters Most

October 16, 2011 by  
Filed under Goals and Dreams, Mind, Professional N*Powerment

What does it take to be successful?

Some would also say that success is a natural result of planning, preparation and focused action. I know because I would be one of them. However, there is another side to experiencing success that happens before any planning or preparation takes place on paper. It’s the planning and preparation that takes place in your mind. 

Have you ever wondered how two people can attempt the same objective in the same way and only one of them succeed?  Is it luck?  Timing?  Tenacity?  More often than not, it’s a person’s mindset that determines whether they fail or succeed.

What is a mindset? 

Typically a mindset refers to your predominant state of mind day to day.  It’s what you think about, focus on, and expect from your daily experiences.  If you think negatively, expect the worst, and feel pessimistic about your options, you’ll draw those negatives into your life.  Likewise, when you think positively, expect the best and focus on successful outcomes, you get more of that more often than not. The concept is summed up nicely in the quote, “You get what you expect.”

Makes sense, right?  But how exactly does this work?  Why is a success mindset so important?  There are three major reasons:

1)  A success mindset boosts your confidence and self-belief.

When you lack belief in who you are and your ability, it usually comes along with a sense of powerlessness and futility. This is a defeatist mindset. It is the exact opposite of a success mindset.  Lack of confidence means you see no point in trying to be successful or to accomplish something worthwhile because you think it won’t happen anyway.  This type of mindset is a recipe for failure in any endeavor because as they say, “If you think you can’t, you won’t.”

Having a truly positive mindset, on the other hand, means that you believe in yourself and your capabilities.  You believe you can succeed at nearly anything and you are at least willing to try.  Even better, you realize that the more you do try, the more confidence and self-belief you build.

2)  A success mindset strengthens your determination.

Without a mindset of success, one failure (in anything) is enough to convince you that pursuing any of your goals is a waste of time. If you don’t achieve your goal/s the first time you try, you rationalize that it simply wasn’t meant to be and you give up.

A success mindset, however, does not accept failure as the end of the story – it’s just one more way that didn’t work out the way you planned.  In fact, a true success mindset accepts that the only true failure occurs when you stop trying.

3)  A success mindset encourages fruitful actions.

Have you ever found yourself going around in circles or procrastinating because you didn’t know the best way to approach a specific goal?  Maybe you wanted to get started, but you felt overwhelmed or intimidated by some of the action steps required.  As a result, you may have kept sabotaging your efforts as you searched in vain for an easier or less frightening way attempt your goal.

With a true success mindset, you’ll be less intimidated to get started on your goals because you’ll accept that the only way to start is at the beginning—one step at a time. You’ll also have the inner confidence and determination to pursue them.

So, how do you develop a success mindset?  Here are 3 tips.

1) Harness the power of your mind by thinking positively.

Catch yourself when you find  yourself thinking negatively. You think the thoughts—think positive, powerful thoughts.

2) Expect the best in every situation.

If it doesn’t happen, reflect on what went wrong and then let it go and commit to trying again.

3) Be willing to fail.

Prepare to fail quickly. Learn what didn’t work from the failure and continue trying until you learn what does work. Ben Franklin didn’t discover electricity on his first try.

Keep moving in the right direction and you won’t help but become successful, from the inside out.

What do you think? What are your tips for developing a success mindset?  Leave them in the comment box below.

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B2B–Day 5–Commit to 3 Things

August 30, 2011 by  
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Jim Rohn, one of the most influential mentors to have ever lived, said “If you have more than 3 commitments at any given time, you don’t have any.” I love this quote for its simplicity and its power. I take it to mean if you are doing too many things, you aren’t really doing anything.” Read more

B2B–Day 3–Change Your Mind

August 26, 2011 by  
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Today, we are going to revisit a concept that I write about often because I truly understand how much it impacts everything you do (or don’t do) and that’s the power of beliefs. Read more

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